When Do I Need to Submit to My Husband?

by Pradha Chakravarthy

“Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything.” Ephesians 5:22-23

God’s Word clearly says that each one of us wives ought to submit to our own husbands in everything, just as to the Lord. As disciples of Jesus Christ, we should take this as a commandment, not as an option. It is easy to minimize our submission with thoughts of our own justification and the voices of those who are close to us. Sometimes, we follow the suggestions of friends and people close to us rather than obeying the direct commandment of God, and thus fall into deception.

What will happen if we do not submit?

We know from the Bible, that the disobedience of Adam and Eve brought sin into this world and severed their relationship with God. When we disobey God in choosing not to submit to our husband, we do the same thing — we not only sever our relationship with God, but with our husband too. The spirit of rebellion is so contagious that the first ones to get it from us are our children. As a result, we could be the direct cause of chaos and unrest in our home. We are also warned about Lucifer’s disobedience and the origin of evil. Hence, it is a serious thing to willingly disobey God’s command and rebel against the authority appointed over us by God. “Rebellion is as sinful as witchcraft, and stubbornness as bad as worshiping idols” (I Samuel 15:23).

What will happen if we obey?

“The spirit of humble submission to God’s authority is the greatest power that there is in the universe – for it is the Spirit of Christ. That Spirit conquered all the spirits of rebellion on the cross. When a wife submits to her husband, she is actually submitting to the authority of God’s Word, which commands her to do so; and she is then being influenced by the greatest power in the universe. Even unconverted husbands can be won over by that power (I Peter 3:1,2). If she lives in that submissive spirit during her earthly life, she will be an overcomer, and will qualify to reign with Jesus for eternal ages (Rev. 3:21)” (Zac Poonen in ‘God needs women’).

In the world, the spirit of submission is seen as weakness, but in God’s eyes it is the greatest power — the Spirit of Christ in us. Through this, we can be wise women, building our homes upon the rock. One way to show our husband that we truly love him is by willfully submitting to him even when the circumstances are difficult. By this, we honor God, acknowledging the authority He has placed over us. When we honor God, He will honor us (I Samuel 2:30). When we try to preserve Self in disobedience, we only bring dishonor to God and bring the spirit of rebellion into our home.

So, dear sisters, let us not waste our time analyzing when we should submit, but rather, let us seek to live in submission to our own husbands at all times, for the glory of God. Let us also not be intimidated by the word “submission” like the world is, but rather, see the true power of Christ in it.

“Live no longer as the unsaved do, for they are blinded and confused. Their closed hearts are full of darkness; they are far away from the life of God because they have shut their minds against Him, and they cannot understand His ways” (Ephesians 4:17,18).

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